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Paradise Lost

November 10, 2018 by Emily Thiroux

Growing up in central California, I heard of a town named Paradise, and I wanted to live there. I looked it up in the library and saw that it was a beautiful town with majestic trees. I loved the idea of getting out of the heat in the high desert where I lived and moving to an idyllic small town. This was a consistent fantasy of mine as I grew up. Now Paradise is gone.

In a moment, homes, businesses, vehicles, and people melted in the flames. Cherished personal possessions turned to ash. What once was most important lost significance to now when life, when living through the horror, is all that matters.

I moved from Ventura, California, three years ago to Maui, my paradise now. I watched from a distance last year as a huge fire raged through Ventura county. My friends were evacuated. The home where I lived when I was there was evacuated. Houses we had considered when we were looking for a new home there burned to the ground, along with homes of friends. Now another fire is barreling though Ventura and Malibu counties.

In an instant, thousands of people lose all their material possessions. All these fires make me reflect on what I would grab on the way to run from a fire, and I realize all I would grab is whoever is there with me in that moment. The stuff doesn’t matter. I would know that my loved ones know how much I love them. I realize that I am living my best life, and I am grateful for every moment.

What would you take? What is most important to you right now? Are you living your best life? If not, start night now. If you are, that’s the best news I’ve heard today! And I am grateful.

Filed Under: Grief, Love, Support

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  1. Patti Ross says

    November 12, 2018 at 7:43 am

    These fires are so tragic. The death toll keeps rising and only one the three is nearing containment. I cannot fathom living close to such devastation. I am so grateful for the fire fighters who save so many as well as our vast natural resources.
    I no longer have a pet to worry about getting out of danger, if I were faced with having to decide what to take while escaping an advancing disaster. I think what I would take would be sentimental items. Most photos are ow digitized, but my parents’ framed wedding picture. Some favorite pieces of art, including small items like bowls and jewelry. Nothing too major.

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