Have you felt alone, empty, disconnected, vacant, or depleted? I know I have felt all these things and many more at some point in my grief. Falling into a deep void is easy to do and can be challenging to climb out of. The good news is you can. The darkness of grief is not a life sentence. When we love someone deeply, we will grieve them always and hold them in our hearts, and we can start feeling better at the same time. We can again feel alive.
When you chose to feel alive, you can. Start by examining what you are missing in your life now. Make a list of things you would like to feel now. Here are some of what I longed for:
Companionship
Fresh air
New thoughts
Joy
Healthy food
A refreshing shower
Grass on my feet
You can go on and on with your list. Now look at your list and think of the choices you can make to bring about these feelings. For instance:
Companionship: Ask a friend to go on a walk with you or have a cup of coffee with you.
Fresh air: Go to a park, a forest, a beach or anywhere else that feels fresh outside.
New thoughts: Read a book, listen to a podcast, watch a documentary.
Joy: Do things that make you happy like baking, gardening, dancing, singing.
Healthy food: Commit to eating vegetables every day. Go to a Farmer’s Market.
A refreshing shower: Take a shower or bath taking your time to experience revitalization.
Grass on your feet: Take off your shoes and sit or walk in the grass. Enjoy each moment.
The best way to start feeling more alive is to do something. Pay attention to what you feel. If you feel stuck, move. Take a deep breath. Stretch your arms up into the air. Walk around the block. Listen to some music you love and sign along or dance.
People grieving know how short life is. You have reached a point of no do-overs or second chances, so choose now to mindfully consider everything you do and think. Instead of allowing your life to just pass by, get active. Take charge knowing only you can take the very best care of yourself.
You can join the Grief and Happiness Alliance which meets weekly on Sundays by clicking here: https://www.griefandhappiness.com/offers/ytK7eLBa
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You can listen to my podcast, Grief and Happiness, here. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/loving-and-living-your-way-through-grief-with/id1509589686?i=1000535381763
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