“Faith is taking the first step even when you can’t see the whole staircase.”
–Martin Luther King
Often those dealing with grief have no idea what their future holds which can be crippling. While grief isn’t something you get over, you can learn to move forward in your grief. But how can you do that if you have no idea what moving forward means?
When a loved one dies, the people who remain deal with many losses such as:
- Loss of future goals, like together buying a home, traveling, or retiring
- Loss of your loved one’s presence at weddings and graduations
- Loss of the 50th wedding anniversary you were looking forward to
- Loss of grandchildren you may not get to know or even meet
- Loss of communication, or having someone to talk to
While dealing with losses like these, the idea of your future may be difficult to imagine, and you may be stuck in the beauty of the past or the anguish of the present. And you have no idea what the future holds now.
The truth is, as wonderful or as challenging your past has been, there is no going back. Do treasure your good memories from the past, but focus on now. You may have had great plans for the future that are not possible now. So again, it’s time to focus on now. What can you do today to best help you prepare for your new life?
Have faith that each step you take on the staircase to the future is an opportunity to live your very best life now. Know that staircase is there to support you on your journey. Use your present circumstances wisely to foster decisions that allow you to keep moving on up having faith that you are making the decisions necessary to ease your journey.
After Ron died, I couldn’t even see the first step of the staircase. To find a starting point, I journaled. As I wrote, I recognized what was missing; the purpose that had been guiding my life and actions no longer existed. Once I knew that, my life opened up for me. As I formed a group to write about dealing with grief, more opportunities came my way to help others who were also dealing with grief.
I sought inspiration each day as I was writing in my journal. With my focus on helping my peers along their grief journeys, ideas easily flowed to me. This led me to a fulfilling life full of joy. I have many new friends, and I cherish the friendships I have gathered throughout my life. I love all I do now and am happier than I ever have been. My current life is rooted in positivity allowing me to see that staircase as a map leading to new journey forward.
Are you ready to step on to that stairway? Or if you are there now, do you keep moving on up? You can do it! I have faith in you.
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