When I was a child, I spent much time alone. I discovered that if I found ways to keep myself busy, I didn’t feel lonely. I was creating my own happiness. Have you done something like this too? People may resort to isolation while grieving to avoid having to listen to others or even to figure out what to say. If that’s you, spend some time thinking about what you would love to do to engage your mind in something positive, something that would result in a beautiful smile.
I have always loved art and creativity. When I was a child, I didn’t have art supplies except for an occasional box of crayons. I loved those crayons in all the beautiful colors with the magical names. I would quickly fill coloring books then had no place else to color, so I would go outside where I could always find art supplies.
Mud was my favorite. I could spend hours creating masterpieces by on smooth surfaces I would create on the ground. I would shape cups and bowls to serve at the tea parties I created for my imaginary friends. I even created a fort with a wall that was two feet high. That fort also became a cottage, or a store, or anything else I desired at the moment.
I took my first art class in high school and spent hours painting which led me to set and costume design in the theatre, and I even painted a mural I designed at a hospital. I also designed and made most of my own clothes. Art has always been a part of my life. I love to see it as well as to create it. When I travel, I always seek out the local and historical art of where I go.
After my husband Ron died, I turned to writing which was a passion of mine and an art form itself. While I loved ceramic sculpture and weaving, I craved more and started taking classes. I learned jewelry making, printmaking, and flower arranging. Then I took a drawing class. I had always known that I couldn’t draw, but I was wrong and ! enjoy drawing now. Have you ever felt like this? It can be surprising what might happen if you try something new.
Then I started finding watercolor classes online and discovered that I love that too! After following specific directions to paint mostly flowers, I saw that I wanted to learn more about the art of using watercolors to paint images of what I see rather that copying another artist’s idea of what they see. I found a watercolor fundamentals class taught at the Hui No‘eau Visual Arts Center on Maui taught by Jennifer Roberts Almodova.
I felt an immediate connection with Jennifer and appreciated learning from her the art essentials I was seeking. She taught me the single most important lesson how to paint or create art in general. She said to gather, organize, and set up the materials required, then to sit still, close my eyes, and take three long, deep breaths. She said to open my eyes and simply focus on what I was painting, letting everything else float away.
I loved this peaceful approach which felt like a meditation. Later as I was painting, she came to see how I was doing. I was a bit frustrated and started chattering about what I was doing wrong. I wasn’t looking at her as I spoke but noticed she was silent. When I looked up at her gentle smile, she was breathing slowly. I gazed into her eyes and became quiet, mirroring her slow, deep breaths. My frustration melted, and my creativity returned. Without a word, she taught me the lesson I needed. Still smiling, she moved on to the next student as I felt deeply supported and continued to paint.
All the art that I have seen, created, or enjoyed is experienced through my heart and is a wonderful companion to bolster me through grief and bring me solace. What can you create that will nurture your creativity?
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