Do you ever feel tense or stressed without even noticing how you got there? In the world today, especially when grieving, these feelings easily creep up on you. You may feel yourself holding your breath, tightening your shoulders, reacting to someone in an unkind way, or maybe even feeling a tear roll down your check. […]
Read MoreI woke up with a song running through my head, but I couldn’t place it. I finally remembered that it was on a Stevie Wonder album that Ron had given to me years ago. I had trouble finding it because I remembered the name of it incorrectly. The actual title is Love’s in Need of […]
Read MoreEvery person experiences grief differently for every instance that happens. For instance, my father died suddenly with no warning. My mother suffered for a very long time before she died at home. My sister did too, but she had multiple hospitalizations. She didn’t die of Covid, but she did die during the pandemic, so I […]
Read MoreI talk, and read, and cry, and write, and speak, and listen about grief much of my waking hours. I choose to do so because I recognize how much grief I have experienced, and I am still standing, and smiling, and even laughing sometimes. I certainly don’t think grief is funny, yet it is part […]
Read MoreThe Greek philosopher Heraclitus, 540 B.C., is accredited with the quote “There is nothing permanent except change.” And the concept of a desire for change has been constant ever since, and probably before that too. When a U.S. presidential campaign occurs, it seems that once every four years the country focuses on changes the people […]
Read MoreI recently heard the song Que Sera, Sera on a television commercial and it reminded me of hearing it as a child. Doris Day came out with this song in 1955, so I was pretty young, but the song stuck with me, and I sang it to myself often leading me to fanciful daydreams. The […]
Read MoreOur lives are full of things, some tangible and easily seen; others intangible and not easy to define. When a loved one dies, many tangible memories are simply left behind and may gradually lose their significance. When the time came to move, I kept that in mind so as not to release what we treasure. […]
Read MoreThink about those days you have had where everything just feels off. Maybe you didn’t sleep well the night before. Maybe it is a day when you are missing your loved one deeply. Maybe you don’t feel good with a headache and sluggishness. Maybe you have no energy. All these feelings are common while grieving. […]
Read MoreI used to feel like I had things hanging over my head. I knew I would feel better when the tasks were complete, and the longer I put them off, the heavier they would get. Recently I was working on organizing my storage room. I was motivated to get it done so that I would […]
Read MoreWhere I live in upcountry Maui now, I have the biggest garden I have ever had, and it takes lots of attention. Even with two people who help me, the tasks seem never ending. I am not complaining, however, because the rewards are worth all the time it takes. I grow tropical flowers, fruit trees, […]
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