Often when I talk to people who are dealing with loss, they tell me that their sense of purpose is no longer clear to them. Everything in their lives seems different and they find themselves examining what they should do next. I know I did. I had spent all my time with my husband before […]
Read MoreI heard someone say the other day that she was fishing in the wrong pond, and that reminded me of going with my parents to Oregon to visit my aunt and uncle so that my father could go salmon fishing in the ocean with his brother-in-law. I wasn’t allowed to go out on the boat […]
Read MoreAfter my husband died, I found myself searching for what I was supposed to do for the rest of my life. I have led a rich and fulfilling life, yet at this point, I felt like I had done all I set out to do although my path was circuitous. I spent much time writing […]
Read MoreI watched the series And Just Like That this weekend. It’s the continuation of Sex in the City, and I watched it because it dealt with Grief. At the very end of the series, Carry said “And the rest is still unwritten.” That took me right back to my early grief with Jacques when Natasha […]
Read MoreWhen I first moved to Maui, I didn’t really know anyone. Ron had lived here years before I met him, so he had built-in friends who also became my friends. Because Ron was dealing with health challenges, I didn’t start making friends of my own, but I realized I was falling into deep relationships gradually […]
Read MoreI recently heard that the key to happiness has only five words: Do the things you love. How simple, yet profound. I decided to make a list of things I do, or have done, that make me happy. Once I got started with my list. I couldn’t stop! I’ll share some of my list here […]
Read MoreI’m sure we have all had times when we don’t feel our best for one reason or another. When that happens, we have a choice. We can remain sad, or grumpy, or just feeling bad, or we can figure out how to do something about it. I have been under the weather for a couple […]
Read MoreThis Sunday was a beautiful winter day in Hawaii with the temperature in the 70’s and the sky blue with white, puffy clouds. I facilitated a meeting of the Grief and Happiness Alliance that went so well. The meeting felt good. I felt that each participant had been touched in a way that brought them […]
Read MoreWhile time may seem to stand still while in early grief, it will start picking up speed. Now, each year now seems to fly by faster than the last. The good news is there are ways you can more effectively deal with time to make it your friend. I know I say this often, but […]
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