When someone you love dies, everything changes. Initially you have deep yearning for things to go to how they were when you both were healthy and living the life you dreamed of. Now you know that not possible, and you may be struggling to know what to do now. That happened for me. I set […]
Read MoreI remember looking forward to 2020, knowing that the future was bright and amazing things were going to happen. What a surprise that those amazing things were not the positive changes I was anticipating. Our world and our lives seem to have been turned upside down as well as shaken around. Add with our personal […]
Read MoreMy Mom and Dad were married for 54 years. They were 18 when they got married in a small California town during the Depression. They spent their time together until Daddy got drafted into World War II. When he came home, they were closer than ever. They spent years together active in the Veterans of […]
Read MoreI remember clearly the last time I kissed Ron as he transitioned. I knew he was gone when no energy was exchanged between us. I was simply kissing what was already the memory of my love. Songs and poems are written about the bliss of a first kiss, but people rarely discuss the last one. […]
Read MoreAre you upset, angry, frustrated, or depressed about the pandemic and the way it is being dealt with in our country? Let me ask you, do any of those emotions serve you? When you are spending time with emotions that aren’t doing anything to make your life and the lives of others better in some […]
Read MoreDo you sometimes have an intense yearning to be with your loved one? I know I do. I’ve been wanting to be able to talk to him about all the results of the pandemic, just to hear his voice and his wisdom. Before I go to sleep at night, I think about him hoping he’ll […]
Read MoreDo you have times when you drift into thinking that you want to go back to the way it was when you were with your loved one? You think of conversations, of things you loved to do together? I know I do this sometimes, but I always come back to knowing that I can’t go […]
Read MoreMy good friend was talking a walk (a few weeks ago when we could) when she ran into a friend on her way. Walking on Maui is such a wonderful experience as everything is verdant, tropical, and fresh, and the trades winds are gently blowing. Gazing across the water to other islands is breathtaking. Encountering […]
Read MoreIn the Writing Through Grief group I facilitate on Maui, one of our favorite exercises is writing Haiku Poetry. I first learned to write Haiku in a writing class in college and fell in love with the form years ago. The form is so simple that anyone can write it and easily express thought concisely. […]
Read MoreIn dealing with my own grief after two husbands died, I discovered that helping others deal with grief gave me a sense of purpose. I wrote a book, created a writing through grief program I held at my home, facilitated a Death Café, and created a social media platform to help people take care of […]
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