I went to a Michael Franti concert recently. He is an amazing performer so filled with love and inspiration for all people. He had just written a song he wanted to share with us even though he didn’t have it memorized. He read the lyrics from his phone as he sang “Life goes quickly so […]
Read MoreMy parents we married 80 years ago today. They were married on Mother’s Day. So this week, my thoughts keep drifting toward them. I lead a Writing Through Grief group here on Maui, and one of our favorite exercises is to write letters, so I’m going to write a letter to my mother this week. […]
Read MoreHappy May Day! I remember as a child creating little paper baskets that I could put flowers in. I filled them with roses from our garden and hung them on my neighbors’ doorknobs. I always dreamed of dancing around a maypole with flowers in my hair grasping a ribbon attached to the top of the […]
Read More“The only thing that is constant is change.” Heraclitus of Ephesus, Greek Philosopher When we grieve, we often feel like things will never get better. We know we can’t go back to how things were before whatever happened leading to our loved one’s death. And we can’t see a future beyond where […]
Read MoreEaster for me has always reminded me of a fresh start. That after a time of stillness, it’s time to begin again. In my heart I know that I am whole, complete, and perfect, and I know that making the best of each moment is my goal. I remember wonderful times growing up where the […]
Read MoreDo you feel stuck in your grief? Do you sometimes feel like things will never be better than they are right now? Do you long for the way things were before your loss? Do you think you will never feel whole again or even feel better? Did you know that usually all these thoughts come […]
Read MoreComedian Bill Mahar ends his act on stage after each performance by singing silent film star Charlie Chaplin’s song Smile. The night I saw him, Woody Harrelson came on stage with him to play the piano and sing with him, and Paul Simon came on to sing with him too. What a treat! But when […]
Read MoreI’m sure you’ve heard someone say, “Be careful what you wish for!” Have you thought about what that means? When we wish for something, the universe grants that wish, whatever it is; however, how it is granted may not be what you thought you were asking for. When you say, I know I will never […]
Read MoreLately it seems that so many people are dying. In dealing with people in grief, often they mention that it isn’t just that their loved one died, but there are so many others dying, too, that dealing with all that death can be overwhelming. So what can you do? Often when we see or hear […]
Read MoreI have been reading Viktor Frankl’s book Man’s Search For Meaning, which I highly recommend, and have received much inspiration. The first half of the book reflects on the time he spent in Nazi Concentration camps. Reading his thoughts reminded me so much of my early grief. Early grief is a time when we can […]
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