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Joy

The Joy of Self-Expression and Actualization

July 17, 2019 by Emily Thiroux

In my Reclaiming Your Joy After Loss group in Facebook, Teresa suggested that I write about the joy of self-expression and self-actualization. I love this idea because participating in self-expression led to my self-actualization after Ron’s death.

Throughout my life, I have thrived on self-expression, whether it be through creating a home for my family, loving my husbands, writing books, teaching, acting, weaving, quilting, cooking, painting, or expressing love to others. After Ron’s transition, I found myself questioning what I was supposed to do next. While I have greatly enjoyed expressing myself up to this point, I felt like there must be something more, something else I was meant to do. I spent much time in meditation dwelling on this subject, and I started listening to my intuition. When our good friend Chappy died suddenly, I knew immediately that I needed to write his wife Lori a letter from my heart with things she needed to know right then. That letter led to me creating cards to send her for 52 weeks, the first years of her grief. The messages in those cards just flowed out from me over a period of two days. These cards led me to write my book, Reclaiming Joy After Loss and start a group to help those grieving write through their loss. Which led to my group online and my online classes on writing through loss.

All of this self-expression let me to know that I have discovered my life’s purpose, my self-actualization, of helping others actively work through their grief to discover joy again. This process has brought me to a place of great peace. I look at things objectively without judgement. I practice deep gratitude very day. I easily focus on problem solving in a gentle, positive, constructive manner. I greatly enjoy time in meditation and just sitting on my lanai (patio in Hawaiian) watching the beautiful view and listening to the birds. I welcome opportunities to support others through the grieving process. I am open to new experiences and meeting new people, and I am greatly enjoying the journey of my life!

What can you do to practice self-expression? The easy answer is, whatever you want! Start simply by writing a Facebook post, or by posting a favorite picture on Instagram. Paint something beautiful. If you have always wanted to paint but don’t feel you know how, take a class. Or take a class in anything you’ve always wanted to do like ceramics, golf, or dance. Or take classes to explore your beliefs and spirituality. Discover a way that you can best express yourself, then do it. Make time to do it on a regular basis. Make that time sacred so you won’t talk yourself out of doing what you love. We are good at that, not allowing ourselves the pleasure we desire. Make yourself your priority in this process.  And each time you accomplish something along this journey, celebrate! Smile! Jump for joy! Post a picture of what you did, or share your accomplishment with a friend.

The more you practice self-expression, and the more ways you discover to express yourself, the closer you will come to your own self-actualization. One day you will wake up and discover that you are there. You have found the meaning of your life. You know what you are supposed to be doing. Your joy will be great. And your life will be even more wonderful. Get started today. What do you really want to do?

 

If you would like to take a class from me about writing your memories, use this link for 25% off the regular price for my blog readers!

 

 

 

Filed Under: Happiness, Joy, Smile, Support, Writing Tagged With: grief, Joy, writing

Freedom

July 3, 2019 by Emily Thiroux

This week we celebrate freedom in the United States of America, so I decided it’s a good time to celebrate my freedom.

I am grateful to live where I am so free. I am free to vote for who and what I want to. I am free to love who I want to. I am free to choose the food I eat. I am free to choose the kind of work I want to do. I am free to believe what I want to.  I am free to drink fresh clean water. I have free time and can do what I want to in that time.

When voting, things don’t always turn out the way I would want them to, but I am grateful to be able to take part in the decisions.

I love unconditionally, and I am thrilled to spend time with those I love the most.

With eating, I choose healthy, non-processed foods, and when I shop at farmer’s markets and produce stands, my food bill is much lower, and I am much healthier by eating yummy fresh fruits and vegetables.

I have worked in many fields in my life from nursing, to teaching, to writing books, to being an entrepreneur, to theatre, to owning a café an cantering, to being a vegan chef, to owning an ambulance company. I love them all and am grateful for the variety of experiences.

I am a spiritual person grateful for meditation, recording my gratitude, living by intention, doing affirmations, praying, and not judging anyone’s beliefs.

I am thrilled to have ready access to all the good, clean water I can drink, bathe in, and use.

I love my free time to use creatively in the arts, to spend time with people, and to serve my community.

Though I miss my sweet husbands on holidays, I take time to reflect on the fun we had on the holidays we shared, and I am grateful for my freedom.

I am free in body, mind, and soul.  I am free to take good care of my body by eating wisely and exercising. I am free to take good care of my mind by reading and being open to learn new things. I take care of my soul by doing my daily spiritual practice, by staying in integrity, and by loving unconditionally.  I am grateful to be free!

I encourage you to reflect on your freedom this week, too!

 

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Filed Under: Gratitude, Holidays, Joy, Support

Birthdays

June 28, 2019 by Emily Thiroux

Birthdays can be a big challenge. Ron’s Birthday was last week, and it really hit me hard. I thought of his big party we had to celebrate his 70th. We lived very close to a place where we could make our own wine, so months before the party we started creating our wine so it was ready to bottle on his birthday. We invited everyone to come help us and our granddaughter’s jazz trio entertained us while we ate cake, then we all walked to our house for a fabulous Greek dinner. What great time we had! 

My birthday was a week before he died. He was in the hospital and I had been staying with him to help with his care around the clock. On the day of my birthday, he insisted that I go home to shower and had Shena pick me up because I was too tired to drive. Instead of taking me to the hospital, she took me to my favorite restaurant where all our friends were waiting for a birthday party for me. He and Shena had been planned it for me before he ended up in the hospital. It was beautiful, but I just wanted to be back with him. 

His birthday this time made me remember about how we always made our birthdays special for each other, a time to celebrate our lives and our love. Soon it will be my 70th, and I keep thinking how much I wish we could celebrate it together. And I think we will. I will have cake and flowers and a glass of wine like we would have shared, and I will revel in the sweet memories of our special times together while I also realize how far I have come. I am in a good place now, and I know he wanted that for me. 

Love lasts forever, and birthdays are a regular time to reflect and be grateful for all we shared.

 

Be sure to sign up for our closed Facebook group, Reclaiming Your Joy After Loss. This group is just for people like you! And you can sign up for my classes! 

Filed Under: Gratitude, Grief, Happiness, Joy, Support, Uncategorized

Where are you?

June 20, 2019 by Emily Thiroux

Every once in a while, taking stock of where you are and what you are doing is a good idea.  Today is my son’s birthday, and it’s caused me to reflect on where I have been, where I am, and where I am going. Right now I feel more grounded than I have ever been. In learning to live in the moment, I have discovered that my life has little stress. I remember going to the doctor in the past and him telling me that I just had to reduce the tress in my life, and my response was “Stress is my life!”

In slowing down to pay attention to my world and what I am doing, I have released that old stress. And let me tell you, I have never felt so good. Knowing that I am responsible for my choices, and that I choose to take care of myself and do what I want to leaves room for so much joy.  And I have discovered that I have also released fear. I used to be afraid of being alone, of not knowing what to do next, but I don’t have to carry those fears. At this moment, I have many people to love, and when I want to be with someone, I can be. And I no longer worry about what to do next because I am fully involved in what I am doing right now.

Are you where you want to be? If yes, how wonderful! Congratulations! If you are not, what can you do in this moment to improve your situation? Do whatever that is, right now!

At this moment, I am sitting outside, listening to the birds, writing this love note to you. And I am spending today preparing for Jason’s birthday party and celebrating with our friends and Ohana, the Hawaiian word for family. What a magnificent, beautiful day! Make you day beautiful and magnificent, too!

 

Be sure to sign up for my class to Reclaim Your Joy!

 

Filed Under: Happiness, Joy, Support, Uncategorized

What Can I Celebrate Today?

June 5, 2019 by Emily Thiroux

Every morning I write out my gratitude list before I do anything else. This way I start my day feeling positive and smiling, recognizing how wonderful my life actually is. I listened recently to an interview Oprah did with Lynn Twist, who Is a major inspiration in my life. Lynn learned much about money, scarcity, and enoughness when she was the Director of Development for The World Hunger Fund. Much of her philosophy is based on recognizing what you already have and making the most of it. In her interview, she suggested instead of just writing a gratitude list, that celebrating what you are grateful for can help solidify whatever that is, making it a highlight in your life.

So, what can you celebrate today? For me, when I woke up this morning I was thinking of how many people I know who are having serious health challenges right now, and instead of worrying about them, I realized I am grateful to be able to serve them. We made home-made chicken soup for a friend with pneumonia, brownies for a bed ridden friend with a sweet tooth, sent cards and notes to a friend grieving, sent cheery texts with beautiful pictures to a hospitalized friend, and talk on the phone to a friend asking for guidance. Instead of focusing on the negative, I focus on the positive. I celebrate today that each of these friends are alive and that I can shower them with love.

I encourage you to watch Lynn’s interview with Oprah, watch her TED Talk, and even ready her inspirational book, The Soul of Money. You will love her. My whole attitude toward money and life in general changed when I read that book.

 

 

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Filed Under: Gratitude, Happiness, Joy, Love, Support Tagged With: Celebration, Gratitude, Joy, reclaiming your joy

Times of Remembering

May 29, 2019 by Emily Thiroux

On Memorial Day, my sweet neighbor Dawn brought me a bouquet of camellias and hydrangeas in remembrance of Ron. The camellias reminded me of the first day I visited Ron at his house and he picked me a beautiful camellia to put in my hair. He was so romantic. And that led us to talk of memories of Memorial Day. Ron and I always hosted a big bar-b-que. He made his famous ribs and chicken, and I cooked corn on the cob, potato salad, and peach cobbler and we invited everyone we knew. I miss those parties.

Now that I live in Hawaii, instead of having a bar-b-que, we celebrate Memorial Day by watching the Shinnyo Lantern Floating on television which takes place on Oahu.  This year was the 20thanniversary of this event that takes place on Ala Moana Beach. Families and friends honor their departed loved ones by decorating small lantern boats with the names, letters, poems, and flowers. Then the families wade out into the ocean to float the boats out into the bay. They have beautiful Hawaiian music and dancing combined with Japanese Buddhist Shinnyo-en traditions. Forty thousand people participate. After the lanterns float on the water for the evening, volunteers retrieve them to refurbish them to use again next year.

The touching part of the ceremony to me is how the presenters encourage the participants to discover their Shinnyo within to bless the community. On their website LaternFloatingHawaii.com, they define Shinnyo as:

“Shinnyo is reality, or the true nature of all things. It is the innate goodness, wisdom, and compassion inherently at the core of every living being. Shinnyo is the light that exists in all, without exception.

Shinnyo can also be understood as external forces, vibrant and infinite, that compassionaty lead us to moments of awakening – those serendipitous moments of feeling present and inspired. When we become aware of Shinnyo existing in and warmly encompassing us all, we can appreciate how interconnected we are.”

May we all remember our Shinnyo throughout the year by honoring our loved ones who have died and by supporting and loving the communities we live in.

Filed Under: Grief, Holidays, Joy, Love Tagged With: Memorial Day, memories, Traditions

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